Kayley, Sweden
I reached out when I was at my lowest low. We had been trying to get pregnant for just over 2 and a half years. We had begun ivf 6 months prior, one failed cycle of fertilization, the second successful but with a failed transfer. After the failed transfer I was a mess. Physically and emotionally. My body started reacting to my thoughts and feelings and I was literally allergic to everything. I couldn’t keep up the hope or the little bit of positivity I had. It started to affect mark and I and I didn’t want to have to experience this anymore. Without wanting to kill myself I just didn’t want to be in my head. I didn’t want to do anything. Mark asked me to look for a psychologist but I couldn’t find anyone I resonated with. I didn’t want to just talk about how sad I was and how shitty my situation was. I had been to the counselor associated with the fertility clinic a few times and left feeling worse that before.
I had followed you for a few months on Instagram, a friend had shared your inner work course. It took me a while to commit because to be honest I was skeptical that the inner work would help me get pregnant.
When I was offered to “squeeze in” a transfer the following month I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle it. I resolved to take the summer off for me. I was determined that this would be my last summer without a baby and I was going to do things for me. I started being brazen and doing things that used to be “me” but now felt out of my comfort zone after years of putting them off and feeling so low.
I got in touch with you, cried my heart out for two whole sessions and felt so held and seen and supported. You have something special with people. I didn’t once feel like I was your job or your work. (I once tried hypnotherapy but she kept telling me how she went through the same infertility and failed ivf and eventually her and her husband broke up and she never had a baby- that was terrifying for me and I kept thinking how I didn’t want that to be my story!). The inner work enabled me to be me, encouraged me to listen to myself, trust myself and find happiness and contentment and drive and motivation. I guess it’s easier said on the other side now that I have my baby growing inside of me. But I truly felt different during this summer, doing things that fill me up and having the mindset to both fuel and drive me was the partner to the physical actions I was taking!
Livia, Durban
I feel the work we did really freed me from the limitations I was putting on myself. It allowed me to navigate through my uncertainty and expectations which were affecting me negativity and holding me back, to a lighter space where I was more connected to the surrendering of life’s timing and plan. Working though some anxieties and previous traumas helped me look to the future with a more positive mindset.Â
One of my emotional blocks was the early baby stages and how it affected me with my first child and how I was expecting this next baby to bring with the exact same challenges and anxieties. I kept feeling like I could just bury the feelings and skip past this incredible tough stage, only to discover that changing my mindset to trust that each child is so different and that I can also trust and pray and believe in a new way of being this time around with more support is the way.Â
Thank you Kelly for guiding me
Mags, Cape Town
Our fertility journey seemed never ending and beyond overwhelming. The depths of those emotions were all consuming. I tried everything I could think of, saw every specialist, a dietician, changed my exercise routine, stopped drinking alcohol, saw a therapist for years and yet - two miscarriages. It was so easy to fall pregnant the first time, but the second and third took so long. I was healthy and pouring everything into it and nothing worked.
As someone who believes themselves to be emotionally intelligent and very open to growth, I was shocked from the first call with Kelly as I realised just how much I wasn’t aware of. She could immediately point out key points in my personality that could potentially be causing road blocks. It was a big eye opener for me. I found it almost comical that I had never “seen” it before or that no therapist had ever pointed it out.
Over the span of the course I learnt so much about myself. Having a safe space to talk about my journey in brutal honesty with women who actually understood what I was going through, completely changed my emotional state. I could cope for the first time in years.
By finally understanding my fears around motherhood, old trauma that desperately needed healing, major emotional blocks to be shifted and connecting with my children spiritually - with hard work, I could completely shift my experience of fertility. I became calmer, more patient, more intuitive and for the first time in years took an actual break from trying to conceive. Deep healing could finally take place not just for me, but for my husband and for us as a couple.
That’s not to say that I wasn’t still in turmoil, but I could breathe again. I could focus on other things again. I started truly believing that my baby was coming and looked out for signs. I helped my husband shift some of his blocks and we managed to conceive our first ever healthy baby, naturally.
There is no one in this world I would more wholeheartedly recommend to work with if you are struggling with a fertility journey, than Kelly. She has changed my life and my perspective. She has supported me every step of the way and I would not be here today with my strong healthy little love growing inside me if it weren’t for her help and guidance.Â
